I saw my L today and retained her. It was an interesting meeting. She knows that I want to drag this out when possible and that I do not want this D. She also knows that I do not want this to get ugly, but she seems more then ready if it does. She mentioned to me that my W L is going to sh!t himself when he learns who I retained. It will be interesting to see if the information about my L being extermly aggressive gets back to my W. And how she responds to this information will be more interesting to watch. I feel good going with this L, it is nice having someone look out for my best interests. It does suck that it has gone this far. For those of you counting that is $6150 that my W and I have spent on L so far. Maybe she will come to her senses before it gets more costly. My L is also going to respond to my W provisional order that I pay for everything with her paying for her car, cellphone, clothes or any other incidently that my W needs. My L also wants me to get the cellphone records from my W OM convo and the PI video and report from the OMW. Because of this request I will have to meet the OMW for the first time. That will be an interesting meeting.
W just called and asked how my meeting with my L went and if I was going to retain her or not. I told her I did and she asked why. Because I need someone looking out for my best interests and our girls. She asked me if I was going to get ugly and fight. I told her that I did not want to get nasty, it is not healthy for you, me or our girls. I ended the call saying that her L will hear from my L.
W nolonger is in control and probably is very unhappy rightnow. Oh well... She brought this upon herself and me. I have to respond. I will not rollover and play dead. This also means that this process is going to take a lot longer then what was in her head. Does that shatter her fantasy? Probably not, but will make a big dent in it. It also means that 5D probably will go to school at the school by our house and not the other one my W had planned on. I hate that I have to go through this... I want my family intact. I do not want to see my family shattered.
I am doing my best to not be bitter around my W. I have been feeling pretty good. Sure I am lonely, but I have my girls, friends and family. They cannot replace my W in my heart but they lessen the pain that I feel.
