I think I'd get up earlier than her one day. Make breakfast or something for her while she's in the shower. Leave it with a note, then pass back out on the couch. But that's me being gushy. lol
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
If he's not a morning person than no matter what he'll look like he's pursuing. So that's a tough one but a great idea nonetheless!
But I'd say not go back to bed, just be up making breakfast, offer her some and keep on fixing his own. Then proceed to make school lunch etc and possibly engage in some very light chit chat while continuing to focus on cooking and lunch preparations.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
See the going back to bed portion was more about. Look. I did this. I did this for you. There are no strings...enjoy.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
789, what is your W's Love Language? If it's Acts of Service, she'd love NM's suggestion. Vacuum the house too.
Words of affirmation and quality time are hers, we actually read this book together about a year or so ago. The two that I have been miserable at doing, but getting better lately.
I usually did the cooking of breakfast so she wouldn't even notice. As for cleaning or vacuuming, she would see that as pushing.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Did you spend a lot of time away from her for work or other things?
Try just talking with her, listening to her and being understanding. If Quality time is her primary LL, she'll love that, especially if it's not natural for you.
Check my thread, I discovered last night Quality time/Quality conversation is my W's LL, no doubt...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I use to spend up to 15 hours a day at work to avoid conflict.
Oh I have been trying to listen alot lately and being understanding, also doing little talking, that is when she closes down right now
Well, that is the key to quality conversation for women. That's exactly the right thing to do. Don't ruin their moment by opening your yap at the wrong time.
I sat there for several minutes at a time last night not saying a word and she would just keep giong, it was awesome, in the respect that she would keep talking to me.
Your wife will do the same as you show her you'll listen and understand, I think you got it man!
When do you leave for the weekend?
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I have been keeping my mouth shut, it is killing me though. Even when I am around her and doing my best DB'ing she is staying really quiet.
We leave in about 24 hours. I am scared sh*tless. At the present moment my stomach is in knots. I know I am going, but I am having serious thoughts, that much time = that much time of screwing something up.
Her mother actually called me and is giving her DB book this weekend on her own accord. Not sure if that is a good thing or not, she said I could call and tell her not too if I felt that was best, so I am still thinking.
I wish I knew why I was dreading going. My other thought is this is possible the last time I will be around her for this much time at once, to where it feels like it might be make or break time.
Ok, I am rambling again.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Question for anybody out her in this land, What does, "I am thinking about" it mean? Does it mean thinking about trying or taking you back at some point? Does it mean trying without having to say she is trying? or Does it really mean nothing at all?
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
