I am UA's Husband and I feel the need to clarify something. First of all, I don't have a problem with what most of you have said. In fact, it has helped me in some ways. I just feel that I was attacked and misrepresented. I don't feel that I was an [censored] or a jerk to UA before the A happened. I took my wife for granted, didn't pay attention to some of the signs that were there.
I don't believe that my W is to blame for all of this. I share a brunt of the load. I am just having trouble getting past the act and the betrayal that led to it. I had her on a pedestal and didn't believe she was capable of doing such things and I'm just hurt by her actions and what led to it because I feel if we had communicated and I had listened, this could have been avoided. And now I'm left with the aftermath of something that we both could have stopped.
Second of all, I don't mind UA venting, sharing, asking questions and seeking guidance on this board. I have done the same through other channels - friends, family, etc. I feel it's important that UA do the same if she's going to work through some of the raw emotions she's feeling.
I am not going to get involved in this website or her postings from now on. I stumbled upon this by accident and read some threads from early January. I just felt kind of hurt by what I read, I felt that some of the things were one sided from a particular person, and I expressed this to UA and maybe didn't explain well enough. I did not mean for her to stop posting here or to abandon any of her friends or contacts on this board.
I have tried not to be hateful about our S, I just needed some time away to reflect and work through some of the anger that I was feeling. I didn't think UA or my kids needed to have that as a constant in their daily life. I don't know what the future holds but we are taking it one day at a time.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
