And sometimes what a person really REALLY needs is simply to be heard and offered compassion. Barking at someone to "get over it" when feelings are new and raw is a sucky way to treat people, imho. I realize this stage is part of your past, but it's a new one to her.
I know that many of us get very protective of others on the BBs. I have also rushed to the defence of those I have felt were being treated unfairly, only to see later (in most cases), that the original poster was right.
Honestly, the most helpful posts I've had have been the ones that seemed at the time to be the harshest. I also thought that I needed to be heard and soothed, and I got that from a lot of people. But when I was spinning around in circles, it was not the ONLY thing I needed.
Maybe you will understand better when you've been here for two years. Well, hopefully you'll be reconciled by then.
KS is lucky to have a friend like you.
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