She would have to intiate intimacy and actively participate if I started the process. Quantity would be at least 3 times a week. I think I have been deprived for so long that my desire is VERY HIGH!
I am so sensitive to this issue now that I think I may not be thinking correctly. Sometimes I feel "Am I selfish for my wants/desires?"
I do thik that she may be seeing the hopelessness of this situation too. I think this sometimes...How would she get her desire back (she calls it passion) if I were not Love Busting to any great degree. Maybe it is just her!
I know this must be frustrating for you...but keep reminding yourself that she knows what you need, you've told her...it's not like she is unaware. So don't go back to her and try to explain your needs again....I have a feeling that's probably bubbling under the surface with you (the temptation to go re-explain how important this is.) I say that, because I've BTDT myself...I'd often question whether my H really "got it", or whether I actually got across the importance of what I was saying.
I have spent 9+ months doing that. I usually would go every two weeks or so before I would explain my point of view. I look back on this now and it seems so weak that I did this so often.
I took the 'Radical Honesty' concept to new levels. She said that my Type A personality and management personality has been in full bloom.
She is fully aware of the situation and walking on egg shells for at least 2 months now. Prior to the two months she was so bold and arrogant, almost a controlling aire about her. She bacame passige/aggressive and refused to talk about this issue.
I have been looking at match.com for weeks now. Not wanting to actually date but I day dream about what it would be like to have someone love and desire me again. I feel guilty for doing this!
I also make way too much eye contact with other women when that look at me. I am drifting away from her quickly.
I have been looking at match.com for weeks now. Not wanting to actually date but I day dream about what it would be like to have someone love and desire me again. I feel guilty for doing this!
I also make way too much eye contact with other women when that look at me. I am drifting away from her quickly.
AN if you are doing these things just cut the ties so you are free to pursue someone else. The mere fact that you are doing this tells me YOU are already separating yourself from this woman.
I have been looking at match.com for weeks now. Not wanting to actually date but I day dream about what it would be like to have someone love and desire me again. I feel guilty for doing this!
I also make way too much eye contact with other women when that look at me. I am drifting away from her quickly.
Hi, AN.
Don't do that. You are looking for an affection switch to minimize your pain. That is unfair to you, and your girlfriend, and the new person you direct your attentions at.
Face you situation head on and deal with it. Then you lick your wounds, get healed up and go out to find a person more suitable. You need to figure out what it is you AREN'T seeing in the women you pick, and get that fixed in you. There are good women out there that aren't all spit and polish (image) rather that are open and honest.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
