KS, knowing that I've always tried to do the right thing (maybe not always being successful but trying anyway)has been a major coping mechanism for me. Once you start down that slippery slope of getting even, making her pay, shaming etc. you lose that "being the bigger person" and then you really have nothing at all. I don't mean feeling superior to the other person but just feeling the good that comes from doing what is right. Self respect is something noone can take from you but it's something you can very easily just give away! We each have that choice.
