Dana - good for you. I think everyone going into this knows or should know that they really can't control the outcome of it. You can be the best dber in the world and you M may still not work. You can also be the worst dber in the world and it still may work out regardless. Obviously the better we do...the better our chances...but there are no guarantees regardless of how well we do. THAT is dictated by our spouses. So although you have done an incredible job of dbing - unfortunately the M may not be saved....but YOU have been. In the end, that is what is most important here. Stay strong, practice what you have learned and you will have a happy life.
I worry about my W a lot too. I want her to be happy. But we can't control that. That is for them to figure out. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. As I told Chicki earlier, the best way to do this is to lead by example...and what an example you have been.
