Moved this over to your thread since the other one locked.
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Aha! Now this makes sense. But, I really don't want have a another child, I want an adult wife that can take care of her end of the mariage without me acting as enforcer of rules.
You aren't enforcing rules. You are setting boundaries... you are not staying on her tail to make sure she lives up the bargain, you are minding your wants and needs and RESPECTING them. What she chooses to do or not do is her choice.
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My W is very responsible most all other areas EXCEPT for this one. She is wonderful with the finances and planning, and the kids, which is all I really care about (that and getting laid on a regular basis).
So you need your wife to be a mother, a financial planner, and a lover? Take over more responsibility with the kids, take over the finances, do more housework, and I promise you, you will STILL not see an improvement in your SL.
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My ex fit your description to a T, except she was HD. Always pushing the limits, and I just got fed up and pulled the plug. I have a problem with running other's lives, it's a Type 7 thing I guess.
And perhaps an issue with avoiding conflict? You make it sound like pushing limits is a bad thing.... ???
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If this is what it takes to get our S life in the groove, maybe that's just the way it is but it sucks ass IMO.
Get a book called "Boundaries in Marriage." It's a little heavy on the christian preachy side, but it DOES do an excellent job of explaining boundaries and how to implement them... and why they are so doggone important.
