I just gotta ask: just exactly what kind of "vibe" might that be??
Sweet, shy in some ways but not others, kisses you for an hour at a time. I should note that when I say "total premature ejaculator" I mean that I'm not actually sure that we ever actually had sex although attempts were made.
It's so clear to me now what went wrong with my marriage. I am attracted to men when I feel sorry for them because that feeling allows me to be freely sexual. My 2bx is someone who actually likes people to feel sorry for him. After my father died I felt vulnerable and wanted more security in my marital relationship so I challenged the previous status quo by seeking emotional support from my 2bx. He was unable to offer this support because he sees himself always as the one more needy. Therefore, the same quality in his personality that allowed me to pair-bond strongly with him early in our marriage eventually caused me to no longer desire to be pair-bonded with him. I changed and he didn't. However, I'm still in some sort of wobbly state of functioning and I know this is true because I really don't know what I want at this point sexually or from a relationship.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
