CW called at 1020. Wanted to talk. She said that everyone is mad at her.
It's all about her at this point. She acted irresponsible. Now she's being held accountable.
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We talked in circles a bit, and I told her that I felt our old marriage was dead and we could come back from this and be stronger than ever. What was needed was she needed to see that we can work. I told her that an A was a symptom of the problem, not the problem.
Well said.
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She kept coming back to the fact that she wanted us to be friends and get along for the kids sake. Initially I told her that friends don't treat friends how she is treating me.
So? You can 'get along' for sure. You can never be 'friends'. You can be 'friendly'. Ask her this: How can you be 'friends' if, at some future tie, one or the other of you gets married? How would that be fair to the new spouse? Do you think that's realistic?
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I am not sure where this leaves me. She starts out so against us, and then backs down. She never said that she wanted to give us a chance, but she backed away.
She's a wreck. You're bursting her balloon. She thought she could make a 'plan' and do what she wanted and you didn't follow her plan. You haven't been mean, or vindictive or any of the things that would make it easier for her to justify her actions. What you HAVE done though is set an expectation that she will treat you with respect, and act like a responsible parent.
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I think some of this was precipitated by me pushing some things a little too much.
And this is an issue because????
You pushed 'some things' that have to do with her being a responsible parent, and her treating you with the respect you have earned. You have NOT mistreated her in any way. You have NOT attacked her poor choices.
She's playing her games and you need to stop playing.
