I really don't have much advice for you, since I am still in the separated stage with NO talk of divorce yet. Sometimes I feel like pulling that card because H just walked away, but then I want to try to make this M work.
It sounds like your XW is realizing the grass was not greener on the otherside. Maybe she is just waking up from all the destruction she has caused. Stop waiting for the apology. I believe if our WAS's have to say they are sorry it just makes them realize how at fault they are and causes them to really look inside as to who they really are. Do we really think they can do this? This is my perspective. I don't think my H will ever apologize for all the wrong. It's kinda like just shove it under a rug and move on. I don't agree with their perspective, but have come to terms with him probably never coming forward and admitting wrong.
In your situation, I probably would just invite her to the event. If she turns you down can you handle the rejection? If you can't don't put yourself out there. Keep it on the friends for now basis and see what happens.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
