Last night was some drama. What does it mean when your spouse says they are annoyed and resent all the 'perfection' they see in you right now. That 6 months ago she would have had to kick me out of bed, but now i'm super dad getting the girls ready every morning.
I've heard variants on this over the last month, usually about once a week after having fairly decent weeks as co-parents.
I did my best this time to not defend myself, actually I didn't say anything in response other than something like 'i guess i would be frustrated too if thats what I thought'. I didn't know what to say, it just felt attacked, and couldn't think of much to say.
She also wanted to say she feels in limbo, and if I think us being stuck together is going to change anything i'm wrong, and that its actually making it harder to imagine ever making us work.
The conversation moved around some, to renting places, parenting splits, etc. Some of it was productive, others were not. I was suprised that i was able to keep calm, and shut up for most of the conversation, yes i made some stupid mistakes, but overall i don't know how to handle 'seperation' talk. By the end of it, she had calmed down pretty much, and we agreed to just talk tommorow at the family therapist tommorow.
So what do you think? I don't know what to do, the perfection talk is frustrating. She is basically calling me out as being a fake and that they won't last, and that she sees them as manipulative so she won't leave. At least she is noticing, and validating that my changes are good right?
