I hate to see you go through something like this as I will soon be D'ed. But she left you because she was looking for greener grass. She though she found that and married him only to find out that the grass was/is not greener!
Not to be mean or anything, but why does the WAS always think the door will always be open, when they have crapped all over the LBS? And the WAS did it once and what make us so sure that they won't do it again? I know that you should forgive, you can and not go through that again. They can run around and do what and who ever they want and the LBS is suppose to be waiting with open arms.
Look at your case, she even married someone else! Marriage is sacred and not something that you just jump into, but that's our instant gratification society, be happy and do what you want. But only a few people do the right thing and the right thing is to honor the commitment and the vows that you made! (I know that there are some circumstances that prevent that and D is warranted) But the reasons and the things that people get D’ed over these days are purely selfish and totally self-serving. Guys we all heard the excuses when our WAS left.
My STBXW to this day is still blaming me for everything that went wrong in the M. I believed her at first, after beating myself up for 4 months, I found a journal of hers. I never knew the internal struggles and issues that she was dealing with until I read that! Wow, she really has some issues of her own and now I know that it’s not me and not my fault, she never shared them with her H.
I have several friends who went through the same as you and neither of their XW’s has apologized for what they have done. They think that thy can come back and all is well or pick up where they left off, to me that’s insanity. leaving a wake of destruction and expect every thing to be just fine. Why be accountable for our actions, were just a higher form of Monkeys, we’re just mammals and lets do like they do on the Discovery Channel.
Sorry for the long read but, I just want you to be careful in dealing with the XW, I don’t want you to go through that hell again, tearing you family apart looking for the bigger better deal that didn’t happen.
A wise woman builds her house but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. (Proverbs 14:1)
This is the way of an adulterous woman: she eats and wipes her mouth and says, “I’ve done nothing wrong” (Proverbs 30:20)
Me: 37 WAW: 31 M: 6 Years No Kids BOMB: 9/4/06 D: 9/16/07 my sitch
