"Allowing her half efforts to get her by" is exactly what I was trying to tell him earlier in the thread. Great & wonderful he's scheduling dance lessons, etc., but if he wants to truly *fix* their SL, he's going to have do more than that.
I hadn't ever *looked* at my SSM in the light of (like Corri was talking about), when H finally stood up and said enough is enough, this is what I want/need, I decided to take the bull by the horns and get some things done. All along, if he wasn't willing to stand up and say I have problems w/ our lack of a SL, then why are things going to change? As he didn't emphasize the lack of SL was an issue, and I had kind of gotten used to it too, why was there any reason to change things?
It all comes back to communication and stressing how very important whatever your issue(s) are to your spouse.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
