From what you are saying, it sounds like if your SO didn't set and enforce limits you would end up with problems.
Correct. And I contributed to the problem because I was equally piss poor at boundaries. In new marriages, I think, everyone wants to 'get along.' I think they think that marriage kind of takes care of itself. I think it is a common fantasy for both men and women.
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It's not like you would have realized "gee if I carry on this way there will be issues", right?
Uhm. Not the first time around in an M. Now? You bet your bippy I act like that... just to SEE how the man will act toward me... and if he doesn't call me on my crap... he's off the LTR list... because I KNOW if I act like that and he doesn't call me on my crap, there WILL be problems.
I don't have time for that anymore. I have no interest in sharing my life with someone I cannot respect. And yeah, now, I'm going to test the heck out of that.
