I know how you feel going through this…believe me…I know.
I was married for 19 years and my X left for my son’s 29 year old baseball coach. I never caught them but I found the cell phone records and after the Speech she admitted that ‘She and so-n-so would probably be together in the future”. That was enough for me!
I went through months of counseling and trying to get her to go. I obsessed about the OM, cell phone records and people telling me that they were seen together. You know the drill..
Like you I battened down the hatches and I wanted to let you know what happened to me so the same thing does not happen to you.
I told the soon-to-be-X that I would pay for groceries, gas and all current bills. She had recently quit her job so I was the sole provider. During that time she was staying out at night and even made out of town trips. I am sure to be with OM. I stayed home with our 4 kids and was devastated, crying and felt like the world was at an end. I lost over 30 pounds in one month.
Here is what you need to know so she does not financially hurt you.
I opened up a new checking and savings account without her name on it. I had a conversation with the Bank president and told him the situation. I opened up a P.O. box and had all mail directed there.
The X went out of tow a week later to a Bank branch where my account was, about an hour away. She convinced the Bank Customer Service girl to transfer all my money ($5k or so) from the new account to the our old account. Then she pulled the money out. I was at work when I checked on the bank balance. It was 0!
I ran down to my Bank and to make a long story short. We called the police. They said nothing could be done since we were married. The Bank apologized for their lack of security and put the money back in my account about 2 weeks later. I had to borrow money to live on. The bank never went back to X. I guess they considered it a lost cause.
About three weeks later, she found my P.O. key and got the mail. I had ordered a new credit card with about a $4k limit. She took it and went out of town for a few days. The Credit Card company called me with a concern that someone other than me was using my new card.
She went on a shopping spree…new computer, clothes, drinks, food, etc…. I don’t know if the Credit Card company ever went after her but they did not hold me liable for her charges.
Here is another one (lol)… While I was at work, she took all my Home Depot tools that I had purchased prior to the Speech back to Home Depot and got the money back. About $500 dollars.
I could go on and on but you get the point. Remember, nothing is 100% protected so plan carefully!
