I think AndyV is passed out after the "footy" game. It is my understanding that Aussies have absolutely no fear of alcohol in large quantities. I think detaching is telling ourselves that to hang on is not healthy. Face it, the old R needs to be let go of. Give them the space and freedom to do what they need to in order to figure it out. In the mean time fill the space that you would normally be spending thinking about them with things that you enjoy. It sucks and I struggle with it. I'm not patient but I'm learning. Sorry to highjack your thread, but I figured you were too tired so I filled for you
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