I'm afraid your "atta-boys" were unfounded, and NOP's grave concern for the lack of a 100% "no contact" commitment (and some other warning) signs proved to be spot-on.
Yesterday afternoon, after watching my wife get up early to make sandwiches for my boys so that they'd have something to eat "in case I got home from work late," I smelled a rat. I tried to meet her for lunch, but she wouldn't respond to my text messages, so I went by the gym about the time she was due to get off. I watched her and OM both drive off, in their own cars, and take separate routes to meet up at a department store parking lot, where they got into her car and remained for over an hour. Then, they got out, and got into his truck, and drove to his (parents') house, where they remained for about an hour and a half.
I drove home, checked on my kids, and took the spare BMW key, drove to the dept. store parking lot, took S10's baseball bag out of the trunk of my car and put it into the BMW's trunk, left my keys in my unlocked car parked nearby, and drove off in the car that I pay for anyway, and awaited her phone call.
Busted.
She tried to make some lame excuse about meeting him for a THIRD conversation about how they couldn't have any more conversations, and then needing to go to his parents' house to talk to his mom, but I just cut her off and said "Stop. Please, just stop."
I gave her one hour to come meet with me and agree to "100% no contact" to save our marriage, or else I was thru. She asked for 24 hours, but I said "You've had a month, so no, I'll give you only one more hour."
She never showed, and in fact phoned me to chew ME out for following her.
Time to batton down my hatches, financially, legally, emotionally and spiritually. I cut off her cellphone first thing this morning, and had already removed her access to our Savings account. Today and tomorrow, I will complete the necessary precautions.
Choc.
Praise You in This Storm words by Mark Hall/music by Mark Hall and Bernie Herms
I was sure by now,God, that You would have reached down and wiped our tears away, stepped in and saved the day. But once again, I say amen and it's still raining as the thunder rolls I barely hear You whisper through the rain, "I'm with you" and as Your mercy falls I raise my hands and praise the God who gives and takes away.
Chorus: And I'll praise you in this storm and I will lift my hands for You are who You are no matter where I am and every tear I've cried You hold in your hand You never left my side and though my heart is torn I will praise You in this storm
I remember when I stumbled in the wind You heard my cry to You and raised me up again my strength is almost gone how can I carry on if I can't find You and as the thunder rolls I barely hear You whisper through the rain "I'm with you" and as Your mercy falls I raise my hands and praise the God who gives and takes away
Chorus
I lift my eyes unto the hills where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth I lift my eyes unto the hills where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
