OM/PA, MLC and the hits keep coming............

[andyv]

Had a great night at the football tonight, only my team lost, but it was a good game. Had a great dinner, excellent conversation with friends.

Got home about 5 min ago (12am), with W best friend (she left her car at our place to come to the game with me and my friends). She thanked me for another excellent night (she came to the Aust v Uruguay soccer game two weeks ago).

I had organised with W for her to look after DD on Sat night (as she had a work function on Fri night), and I had a party to go to. She agreed.

Got home just now, she left a note under my bedroom door informing me that she had made plans for Sat night and I would have to find a babysitter for DD. Pretty inconsiderate, but I will play along and not bring it up.

So my only two weekend nights off this week are catering for her needs. I have thought about my reaction when I do speak with her tomorrow, and think that I will just let it go, take my DD to my sisters house on Sat night, and leave it at that.

I have done a great job detaching and going "lovingly" dark, so I will not give her the satisfaction of engaging in any convo regarding the inconsideration, and putting OM before her own DD.

I think this would be the best course to take. Enjoy my time with DD on Fri night, Sat day, enjoy the party on Sat night, then take DD out all day Sun (as wife normally gets home after 4 am Sun and sleeps till 2pm).

For all you guys struggling to detach from your W's, I would suggest giving it a real go, as I have found it easier and easier the longer I go. And I have found that I am getting more sleep and my PMA has remained on course.

Also, my sitch that was going a million miles an hour just two weeks ago, has slowed down considerably. Possibly the calm before the storm, or turning a corner, who knows?

I cannot control her, but I can manage her.