Quick question to the girls on here who were(are?) LD, but who have managed to overcome the problem: during the time that you weren't interested in sex with your Hs, were you actually QUESTIONING your relationship in any way? Or were you happy in the relationship but just not particularly bothered about sex?
Speaking for myself, I didn't get over it until I was out of the relationship. In my previous marriage there were plenty of issues that kept me from desiring him, but one of them was the fact that I felt criticized all the time by my H, that made him severely unattractive to me. Then of course there was the fact that he was an alcoholic and the smell of tequila on his breath was enough to make me want to wretch when he'd get close to me....definitely not appealing.
