Ok you wanted a 2x4.

Dude its been a year or so, and its Up to at best --if you try real hard-- 2 x a week. \:o *record skips, music stops-- the dancers stumble and fall*
HUH??
Davvvveee. What are you dooooinnngggg Daavve?
Does. Not. Compute.

Ok seriously everyone has there own acceptable quantity. Accepting her crap rations (the intent and way that she is doing it) is not earning you any respect.
My plan is to see what transpires this summer.
Thats a bad plan. That was not your original plan. She doles out crumbs and you hang in there hoping for just a little more.

I am a fixer by nature so my nature wanted this problem to go away.

Thats contradictory. Its also a useless mindset. The problems will never go away. They will never be fixed, in any R. Ever. Even if its the fact that the couch need reupholstered or the frigerator needs leveling. It will always be something. If your woman is not telling you there is a problem about something, you better believe, there REALLY IS a problem.

I present as evidence a quote from overit
Quote:
And I used to say to him, worry about when I stop talking about it because then I'll bottle up all this hurt and resentment until one day it explodes and I can't get past it.

Thats as radically honest as a woman can get, even if it doesnt make sense to you.
Thats definitely something you want to --Read till you get it.

here are the cliff notes.... The point in time where you think she has accepted you for you, is the point in time where she has given up on you.
Its also a good reason to never use logic to try and change a womans feelings about something. You wont change em, she'll just stop talking to YOU about them.

Today, She knows exactly how I feel. Yep, and she doenst have any self motivating initiative to do anything about it. Is that what you want in a spouse?

I drove most of the night! I left MY house! I called her when I got there the next morning and actually apologized for ‘Pressuring’ her! Can you believe I did that!!!I drove most of the night! I left MY house! I called her when I got there the next morning and actually apologized for ‘Pressuring’ her! Can you believe I did that!!!

I believe you. But No. I cant believe you did that. If you decided to dryly apologize to her, for being a man, and for hoping that she could care for you like you did for her.... AFTER insisting that she go and while helping her move out, that I would understand. Not recommend, or promote, but definitely understand.

I figure that if she is lukewarm before marriage then how would she be if married? We get along great and there seems to be no other issues between us
Why should she respect somebody who doesnt respect his own 'needs'?
Other issues exist. For example your new found and tentative grasp of boundaries.

She is not participating 100% and I do not know how to explain this to her. As GEL stated, maybe I should back off 100% sexually from her and wait to see what happens.

Why would you want to explain it to her? Why not find someone who gets you, and appreciates you. What do you care more about? what people think of the woman on your arm? or what the woman on your arm thinks of you?
Before you answer that ask yourself what do my actions show.

You should back away 100%. Not just sexually. By all means, post here and talk about what happened and what reservations you have to assist yourself.