Why do these things happen III

[789]

I am doing more than grinning, but also having to tell myself to calm down, heck she can even switch cards between now and sunday. But dang, this card is for your lover/husband. I do not know how I am not going to say something or do complete anti-DB'ing if she gives this to me.

[AmyC]

Okay, I have another advice question or whatever you want to call it.

My W, because of her job, wants to go in early every chance she gets, problem arise, or good thing if you want to look at it that way is....on the nights she is suppose to have S and wants to work early, she wants me to spend the night "on sofa" so I do not have to wake up 2 hours early and neither does or S.
It is a 15 minute drive, not bad, but sofa sucks and it is for her conveince not mine or S. Is this a way to use me, or a way to keep me around? The other thing is, if I do this, I will be spending 3-4 nites a week at her place, why the frick have 2 apartments..... ok done venting.

This is an opportunity for you to shine so suck it up on the sofa and consider yourself blessed.

[JR2007]

No kidding! I'm jealous. You don't need to watch my situation 789, I'm watching yours!

[789]

I do consider myself blessed in this actually. The sofa part sucks but I can live with that. In my mind it is almost like teasing, come over, but stay away. I realize what ever her motive is, it is a start in the right direction and does get my foot back into her life a little bit more, so I will do my best to shine.

[789]

So any advice when you have seen a fathers day card to yourself from spouse and it is about as loving as you can get. I do not know how she could give it to me and me not expect the best, or at least say something to her. Past years it would have seem normal, this year, I am just at a loss. I went and bought 2 Bday cards for her, one basically generic, and the other for a W. Hope they do fathers day stuff first, then I know which card to give her.

[*KS*Chick*]

well you were snooping......so no there's no advice, 'cept to quit snooping

[789]

I wasn't, well not really. She had me spend the night to take S to school this morning. It was straight up on the table and, well I am a guy. In other words I was not looking around, it was right next to my wallet and keys.

[*KS*Chick*]

right - but you saw the first one. You knew they were father's day cards. What were you hoping to find?

Now - ignore it. You can't do anything anyhow. Just pray

[789]

Actually I was not even expecting a card from her. It just happened to be the one on top that said to "husband". Okay I will shut up now.

[JR2007]

And bite that lower lip til it bleeds when she gives it to you.

If you get her something for her B-Day, make it simple and MEANINGFUL to her. Nothing trite or expensive.

Keep expectations low, you know the drill...