Sashaying thru Seperation IV

[ourcrisis]

MC, please excuse my bluntness, i am pressed for time here.

- You need to accept that CW, for now, IS cake eating. It is up
to you to accept that. you can accept that, keep on building
positive experiences with her, until the time she wakes up from
her craziness, or she thinks life is actually BETTER with you.
- If you think it IS not acceptable that she is unavailable, with
OM or not, tell her so. in a nice way. She has a choice to act
as the kids' mom, or NOT. If she wants to be responsible mom,
she either needs to be reachable, or let you know when she is
unavailable, or whatever arrangement you can agree on. i am
guessing she will come back with statements like, "hey,
you are not always available." "you are the dad, too. why
don't you know what to do? why don't you know when they
had the last shot?" some questions to ask yourself. If
she thinks she is free to be unavailable or go whereever she
wnats, that's her choice. in which case, may be you should
pick up all the info so you CAN be a single dad, without her,
at least for now. During my "brief" separation from h, I made
sure he got his share of child caring, WITHOUT ME. If we
are separated, we are, right?
- I sense that she IS doing the single GAL thing. Afterall, I
guess that must be very fun to do. Seriously, don't we all
want to do the single thing at least a bit? so carefree.
May be that's why she feel angry when she is in "single mode"
and you called and pulled her back into "mom mode". Not so
fun. Just like men enjoying a baseball game adn the wife
comes in and asks "where's that pasta cooker we bought and
show me how to use it?" Most guy would wish the wife vanished
right that instance.
gotta go.