I am so pressed for time i did not get a chance to read your sitch or all the posts. Just a little comment about the conversation with h. I gathered he left, then he came back. This IS a BIG DEAL for him to come back already. I think we think now he is back, we need to fix the R quickly so we can have a wonderful M together. I realize it is hard enough for h to come back (in the sense that it is VERY SCARY). He may be worried that he is not performing to YOUR standard. He may worry that if this does not work, hwo can he tell you AGAIN that he is leaving? After all, you are not just a stranger. He does somewhat cares about how you feel, no matter whether he chooses to leave or not.
I think, for my personl experience, it is best to just build positive experiences. My h reacts much nicer if I just don't ask about the limited continual contact with OW, and just do fun things with him. Or just tell him "that I was just thinking about you giving me a hug when we woke up and you did it. It feels so good. Thanks." If your h is doing the racecar thing, be all happy for him and be very interested, asking all kinds of silly or not so silly questions, etc. No matter what his real intention was, just pretend it IS for hte racecar. He may get influenced and decides that it IS for the racecar.
I think the conversation was good. It is difficult for him to say those thigns already. i would not mention MC anymore for a while. He heard you. He will go if he is ready. You can go and let him know about it. gotta go. Good luck. Nto sure if I answer to your situation but here are some of my feelings anyway. hope it applies somewhat. Piecing is HARD. One thing I just realize is that I should just use him as a tool to make me happy (e.g. company for drinks, ask for a hug, etc.) rather than depending on him to make me happy. does this make sense?
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
