Yes, this is normal. Yes, it has to do with PW in some way. Yes, you have quit GALing and become hyperfocused on H.
I would suggest --
-- not bringing up C of any sort again -- not giving him any self-help books. If you must, leave 5LL in the bathroom, nothing more -- inquire about how he feels like he is giving up on himself. LISTEN. Ask if there is any way you can get out of his way or otherwise help -- give him permission to try in your M and not be a bad guy if he leaves anyway -- if he suggests he needs space of any sort, agree, but tell him you will take the same space, you are not willing to be more into the R than he is -- don't tell him what he needs or should need -- clarify the scope of the honesty between the two of you (it obviously does not include contact with OW, for instance.) -- go away for the weekend by yourself for yourself, your panic attacks tell you that without question you are not taking care of yourself
