Penny, You are right do only things that benefit you and the boys. H has made his bed let him lie in it. I think at this point in order to work things out with you he will have to apologize and show you remorse. I'm still not sure that won't happen with your H. Something just tells me he might wake up.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon