Almost 8 months and counting

[Yoyowife]

Okay, I have known all along that the OW is a manipulator, but today I learned more. In the beginning OW told my MIL lots of things my H had complained to her about me and then embellished them. My MIL went to the office at least once a week and they apparently became big buddies. It took me a long time to figure this out. I heard that MIL was going around talking about me. I first thought MIL had heard all of this from my H, but he said he had not told him mother anything. At the time I remember him saying I swear that I didn't. I didn't believe him. Well, after I talked to OW's H he told me how his wife would come home and say how my H complained that I didn't keep a spotless house or cook enough. I work full time and was constantly involved in carpooling my D to her various after school activities. It dawned on me that the OW was the one that told my MIL all of this. I remember my H telling me at the time, I know where this came from and I'll put a stop to it. Well, I thought he was talking about that he was going to tell his mother to quit talking about me. A couple of months ago I was reading about EA and how your spouse confides in the other in someone and and soon it turns emotional and then usually physical. Well, the light bulb went off in my head and it was then that I knew OW had ran her mouth to MIL.

Today, I learned more what a manipulator she is. My H's cousin's wife and I are very good friends. Our husbands may be only cousins, but they used to be more like brothers before all of this happened. H is very secretive to his cousin as well. The cousin's wife came over today to lay out by the pool with me. She said that her H told her that the other day he called my H and asked him if he wanted to grab lunch so that he could get a some blueprints from him. My H said he had already eaten so his cousin said well I'll just come by your office to get them. My H sorta of hedged around and said how long will it take you. The cousin said about 20 min and my H said oh, okay. Well, when the cousin got there, the OW/secretary was cleaning up the office kitchen because she had cooked lunch for him at the office! I guess she is trying show my H what a little suzy homemaker she is, since I was such a bad example of a wife! She is using all the negatives my H told her and using them to her advantage! What a schemer!