I agree too that asking directly/specifically, what does he need to do to not give up on himself? Maybe just say, H I was confused by your comment "I feel like I'm giving up on myself". Could you explain what you meant by that? Does he have goals that he feels he can't accomplish now that he moved back?
At least he HAS talked to you about his feelings and he's not leaving you in the dark. That is definitely a positive.
I still kinda think he's in MLC. And I really think those who are, are not going to just all the sudden be okay.
I also think that it is quite possible OW is trying to involve herself with him, or maybe both of them were, and this of course caused the suspicions and questions from you, which in turn made him defensive. I think this coupled with his sisters problems (as you mentioned) has gotten him confused maybe. Maybe he is now doubting himself and in his abilities to make his OWN self be happy. He also needs to realize that his happiness doesn't come from you.
Since you mentioned the IC to him and he even thought of it himself, I think you could definitely bring it up again. Even mention a couple weeks later that you found someone and you were thinking about going by yourself, but if he wanted to go also, you would love to go together.
I'm sorry this is so hard. I really didn't expect such a let down with you guys either. But we do have to keep our expectations low, so just keep Galing and try to keep your PMA up. We all love you! You have been such a blessing to all of us!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
