Dude, eat some of your own dogfood, or catfood as it were, and remember not to believe anything they say.
Yeah, make her do some work, but don't lose it because she said something negative. She's probably still mostly in negative land with her thinking.
My W still says we're 100% done to the pastor, yet she sets up these little meetings to see what I'm doing, how I'm acting, if I'll live up to my word, etc.
She could be playing me, but she might not be. What I'm hearing is she's not. Even if she is, as long as I do what's right, I'll be fine and she has to live with her decisions. You're in the same boat. Just go with the flow, as much as you can (I'm hardly one to say you can do it all the time. )
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
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