Surely I get the prize for the most comprehensively hijacked thread on the board! This is amazing, I still haven't got through reading it all.

Anyway I just wanted to check in and say hi to you guys, I have hardly had a moment to check the board - as you can tell by the fact my thread has run to 4 pages before I got back to it.

The LD bump in the road has passed mercifully, and H and I have been engaging in plenty more HMS. As well as .... wait for it .... conversations! And that (as well as work pressures) has been why I haven't been on the board.

The thread is aptly titled - it is total weirdness in the Hap household. Sex is one thing, but conversations? with MY H? surely I'm dreaming.

When it came to telling him I like him to take charge sometimes in the bedroom, it was quite easy - so thanks to NOP and others who encouraged me there. I just said something like "I quite like it when you get all bossy about wanting sex - it makes you seem like a man with a plan and that's quite sexy". We also talked another time about whether we prefer to be pounced on or to do the pouncing. We laughed about it and figured that each of us likes to do about 50/50 of both and that it's only a problem when we both feel like being pounced upon.

But the really weird thing is that I asked him what had brought on the sudden change in attitude because I really couldn't figure it out, and he said he didn't really know but that he sensed a change in me. I can't really think of any way that I have changed and it had me stumped for a while. And then I realised, that I had been praying very hard (which is not something I do as a rule) and I had just been praying for him to be happy and healthy. Nothing more than that. Sure enough within a couple of weeks, he went out and bought himself a bike, started cycling to work, now he's lost weight, less stressed, pumped up with testosterone etc etc etc.

So there you go - the power of prayer.

Fran

if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs
Erica Jong