Keep having a great time with those kids and W can go take a flying F...

Just wait until the girls are having an awesome time with you and your coooool girlfriend that the girls think is soooo wonderful. Let's see how she feels then... grrrrrrr.....

However, I think leaving the papers for you on the counter is actually pretty generous. One of my friends (who never mentioned to her husband she was filing for divorce) emptied out the house when he was a work (i.e. had a full moving van, took all the furniture EVERYTHING!!!!) and left the divorce papers on the counter.

The first time my husband filed he never even told me he was filing for divorce. He was working out of town and the papers came in the mail. Surprise!!!!! Totally out of left field! I knew he was unhappy because we had just moved and everyone was having a hard time adjusting (we loved the previous neightborhood), but I had NO idea he was filing for divorce. Heck, we had just bought a new house only three months before!!!!!

Now, the second time he had me served (a year later and this he did warn me he was going to do... OW was involved...). He said he'd mail them, but got angry at me and had me served. Being served is kind of humiliating.

So... your wife leaving the papers like that doesn't sound so bad to me. Things could be much worse.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.