"So I don't know. What do I do? It's all about me, and I can't make myself feel better. This sucks!!!"

Hey SD,

Sorry you are having a rough week. I don't have any wise words regarding your sitch but I want to just throw a few pieces of advice in their regarding life in general as a teacher. The last week of school is horrid. You are racing to get report cards done, clean up your room, make sure kids feel secure about their summers, firm up your own summer plans, etc. and I know at least for me that I felt huge anxiety that last week of school.

So, I would say in general this is a time in your life to choose to TOLERATE. What I mean by that is tell yourself that you are having stress right now, and you agree with yourself to not make any decisions right now, to not think about your situation right now, to not act on anything or say anything to your H or anyone else about it (aside from the boards) because you know that although you may feel this way in a week, you also know you have other stuff going on. So maybe choose to TOLERATE right now and give yourself the release and ability to not do anything right now, not have solutions right now, not have answers right now, until your other parts of your life are more calm so those aren't playing on things more.

Does that make sense?

Hugs SD! You are wonderful.


Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. -Marcus Aurelius

Me: 32 XH: 33
M: 8 years
Affair discovered: 06/2006
rediscovered: 11/2006
Separation: 04/2007
Divorced: 10/09/07