So, what was your line of thinking before as you say "the D bomb"? Did you just not really care one way or the other if you had very little S? Just trying to get a better understanding from a woman's POV. When you say you changed your ways, what did you do to get to a better place in the R? I have little understanding of the Type 4 personality motivators in this regard, I am a Type 7 so I don't need any coaxing:).
I hate to think that I would have to threaten to leave to help this, I can be a hard-ass in business but not to my wife. That's a major weapon to deploy and I would rather avoid it.
