Yes, but if both of you become complacent and "ok" in your M w/o sex, then there really isn't a problem.

It may not make a difference to your W because she doesn't know that you feel there is a problem or what could potentially be a problem.

I guess I'm not getting from you whether you are ok w/ the lack of sex in your M or not from your post here or your thread.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10