Sorry misunderstood the other hang ups she has but stand by the way she probably feels about losing her womb.
Jeez its going to be even tougher to get through to her. I know you're going to MC but is this councellor skilled in sex councelling too? Sorry don't know your whole thread would be here day and night if I read everything.
I don't know why she became switched off from before the hystorectomy can't understand why any woman wouldn't like being kissed passionately or feel threatened by a loving massage. My idea of heaven. Get the kissing now occasionally and have actually asked for the massage as I give my H a back massage every night still waiting for mine LOL.
I guess all you can do is be as loving as you can and stay firm in your resolve to try to change things for the better. Keep going to councelling and hopefully in time her desire levels will improve.
Maybe she still doesn't get just how badly this impacts on the whole relationship I know I've learned so much about how men view things from this site.
