I sure hope it's not "A," otherwise H and I are done b/c that would mean he will do it again no matter what I do to make our M good since he has already had about 4 A's (mostly EA's but whatever still A's).

I have to *hope* and pray that it won't happen again now that our M/R is moving in a good direction and I plan to keep it that way. Is it worth the trouble? That depends on the person who was cheated on and what they can forgive and whether they want to forgive and move on.

As far as your sitch goes, maybe trying to figure out why your W has a low SD could help you figure out how you could *work* on *fixing* the problem.

Now, as far as the affair questions, are you having one or thinking about having one or do you think your W may be having one or thinking about having one?

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10