Sorry you find yourself here. My DH moved out 10 days after our 20th anniversary.
About noticing faster if you're gone or not? I don't know. My sitch is so different from a lot of what I see. DH and I still see each other almost every day and spend weekends together (not nights). He has said he's noticed changes and he's also applauded how I'm handling things. (Cuz when he told me about his PA 2 years ago, I did the crying, begging, pleading, groveling down on my knees lose all respect for myself thing.) It took 2 years before I was ready to give him his space, I guess. As much as I hate that he's gone. As much as it scares the crap out of me, I *think* it was the right thing to do. Things had been terribly tense in those 2 years since the PA. Do I like it? No. Some days it's a living he!!. It's a roller coaster. But hang in there.
