wow. i am ok so far. thank you for asking. last night was avery long night.
as for the god thing, im scared to stick my neck out in fear that it might be cut off. and as for control.... i am not in control anylonger. im just sitting here trying to keep my insanity right now.
wait a second, understand something. we have been separated on and off for 1.5 years. i wasnt always with the O.W. i moved to my parents 3 different times for months to prove to her how sorry and sincere i am for what happened.
hurt: if you did it again.. you werent sorry. I think that you need to take a step back.. stop looking at what she did.. and take a long, hard look at yourself.
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each time i wasnt treated any better. i left for a reason. she has the inability to show love ...
hurt.. you're not showing HER love here.
sorry i'm being very harsh here.. but to be blunt.. you dont deserve her back, while you keep holding on to your sense of entitlement that what you did was ok.
that is her standpoint too, i'm guessing. and it's a fair one.
you cheated on your wife. She has every right to dump your sorry butt and never see you again, and SHE would be the one standing in the right. Her not treating you "just how you wanted", in no way entitled you to have an affair. If she sat and sulked every day, and didnt lift a finger to help you ever.. it still wouldnt.
I suspect she was nicer to you than that.
If you ever want to have a chance to win her back, i think that you badly need to find true remorse for what you did. "true remorse" is not "i feel bad for getting my wife mad at me, and the damage I did to our relationship". I would say it's more "what I did was WRONG, I NEVER should have done it, and I would NEVER do it again".
Also, please drop this "it's not fair" nonsense. "fair" would be that she divorces you for your adultery.
Last edited by Dom, Rand; 06/12/0704:48 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
