Just reposting something from Snodderly on Lissie's thread:
If you end up divorced, it's not the end of the world either, but it will release a lot of the pressure and stress that you are feeling when dealing with Puffy issues. The divorce decree is a piece of paper, but honey it gives you a whole lot of power--if Puffy ever decides to wake up again and comes to you requsting a reconcilition, the power is in your hands and it is called decisionmaking. You will be the one to determine whether or not you want to try again. Right now, he thinks he's got the power of choice in deciding whether or not to reconcile, but in the end, when the dust settles, you are the ultimate decisionmaker. But, that time is not here and it will be many months before that will happen. So, Lis, I would suggest that you live your life to the fullest and don't look back--look to today and the future. You have such beautiful little ones who need their mother to be there to guide them along and yes, help create happy moments for them as they travel life's road too.
Life isn't about finding yourself; it's about creating yourself My thread: Trusting God's Plan
