WOW. Major progress, which I am so happy to see. Chocolateeyes and NOP, this is a major DB case that will go down in my history log and be at the top of the list.
Seeing the progress and the determination will be an inspiration to all who read your complete or condensed version of your sojourn on the forum.
I am impressed with the financial decisions you have made concerning the depreciating assets. If the depreciating assets were decreased, almost eliminated, could you afford to stay in your present home? I was thinking cars lose value while most homes increase in value over a 10 year period.
Chocolateeyes, I am with you on the one phone call to the OM but I suppose Mrs. Choc feels she owes him something. It could be for the work skills she acquired but most like there is more, like any other addiction.
chocolateeyes. I want to see an upper case C at the start of your name by the end of the day. You are the new and improved leader of your family so make the move to "Mr. Chocolateeyes" ASAP. OK?????
This is fantastic Choc - there is not much else I can say other than what you already know. Yes, it is true, as much as 100% no contact would be nice, for whatever reason they seem to have to wean themselves off the OP. Hang in there - you are doing fabulous!
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Choc, you have done AWESOME. You have grown so much, even we can see that.
Sure wish my H had done this a long time ago instead of just allowing himself to get to the D bomb stage w/out even putting any effort into hitting me w/ a 2x4.
It helps though just to read your sitch.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
You know... I know you are dealing with lots of stuff right now, so just take this for consideration down the road... but... perhaps, now, Mrs. Choc would go to an MME weekend with you. It would be Quality Time, it would really get you two talking... and that is what she really needs to get back on track with you sexually.
I know you have enough to deal with right now, but like I said, keep it for future consideration.
I have a new found and very serious respect for you, Choc.
Wow...you have handled this thing BEAUTIFULLY. Hit it right between the eyeballs...and this is the true time when you will know if it will work or not. You had the guts and tenacity to hit it head on...cause it never does when one or the other backs down. Keep it up and I can assure you...deep down, every woman wants a strong man who values his own existence, emotional state, sexualty, and a man who knows what he wants is just a pure turn on...
Just a thought. Perhaps the Mrs. could get her cell phone number changed. It is a pain, yes, but another way to block OMs effort to contact her. And if any text messages show up, you'll know that she made first contact.
