Well, I can't imagine how hard it is for you to be working FT and taking care your boys alone while your H is gone. I also can't imagine how hard it is for him to be where he is, doing what he is doing.
I completely understand what you're saying. I require lots of feedback (personality type and all) and I don't always get it. In fact, it's one of the things that makes posting here (or on any BB) difficult sometimes for me.
But as frustrating as it is for you, I wouldn't expect much feedback from your H right now. I would just continue to email him as you have been doing and letting him know how you're doing, how you're feeling, etc., and leave it at that. He's probably not capable of focusing on anything but what's going on over there.
Go see him in September, spend time together, and get a sense then of how things seem between the two of you. Maybe you'll have an opportunity for a good talk about your R.
Has your H always been the type to keep things inside, meaning is he an avoidant type? If he is, then he probably is even LESS likely than the average person to be able to give you what you need right now.
Also, be prepared to deal with some issues when he returns, as I understand that re-entry into civilian life can be a difficult transition. (You may have dealt with this before.) You will also need to adjust, because you are now getting accustomed to being on your own, doing things as you see fit, so you may see him as an intruder at times when he returns.
