You know... I know you are dealing with lots of stuff right now, so just take this for consideration down the road... but... perhaps, now, Mrs. Choc would go to an MME weekend with you. It would be Quality Time, it would really get you two talking... and that is what she really needs to get back on track with you sexually.
I know you have enough to deal with right now, but like I said, keep it for future consideration.
I have a new found and very serious respect for you, Choc.