Definitely read though our posts...and give us more detail on your situation. Perhaps we can help guide you, even if your situation doesn't fit perfectly with ours.
I've gone from a H who would totally avoid me sexually and used the internet to meet his needs...to having an H who is now PARTICIPATING in our relationship in more ways than just sexually. Because of his W/M (or just that way of thinking) he's still learning to be comfortable thinking that sex is a positive thing in our marriage, but he's making great improvements and the more comfortable he becomes...the more blatant his sexual expression towards me becomes. It may never be like what I've experienced in the past with other men, but he's not them...and our relationship is now much better than I ever thought it could be.
There is definitely hope for you...but know up front, it will take a lot of work on your end along with patience, persistence, and consistency.
