You never forget your friends, Being Me! I'm wondering about what to tell the kids when the time for "the talk" comes. I know all the "mom and dad love you" and "you did nothing wrong" stuff but I'm thinking about how honest you are about what has happened. It's one thing to say mom and dad are separating but to point to an A and or say that mom loves another woman, whew, that is overwhelming for me let alone for a 10 and 13 year old. I mean, if they ask why we can't work it out what do you so? Mom's queer? Mom's an unfaithful adulteress? I dunno. Part of this is to maintain the balance in the decision. It is a joint decision but it's based on the absolute immoral actions of one person! What do you say? If the kids ask "did you go for counselling", what do you say "Mom wouldn't go"? W may not even want to expose her A at this point, do I let that happen or do I start a pre-separation feud? I'm lost,lost, lost. Any ideas out there?
