I can see so many similarities in your sitch (although not as much 1-1 time). I didn't get mean or bitter from the D, I just was nice (though alot of that was for my daughters sake!. Still, I listened and was there when she needed me, and now she tells alot of people that were best friends (although I don't see it quite like that yet).
I'm kind of in the same boat as you too as far as game plan. I never initiated unless it was about our Daughter. I also focused on GAL. My change in personality, physique and availibility was really noticed by her I think.
I think I will ask if she wants to go check out this event on the weekend and see what she says. I am afraid of getting hurt, but also of looking desperate to her, and I guess a little bit scared of scaring her off if there is even a glimmer of hope. But I would rather know than always be wondering and torturing myself that way.
One other thing about her recently. She was in 2 car accidents around 8 and 5 months before she dropped the bomb on me. Over the last month or two she has been saying that those caused her to have a real personality change and thats why she picked her 2nd husband who was completely opposite of me. She never says sorry, or that she wishes she hadn't, but at the same time, I wonder why she brings that up unless she is testing the water to some extent.
Thanks again to everyone, and I hope I can become a part of this close knit family once again!!
