Stillme's Chapters Continue

[Nomopo]

As for why you don't give up, I ask myself that a lot in my own sitch. But here is the thing for me-- I don't ever want to look back on this and be able to say that I didn't do everything I could have done to keep this marriage from ending. If I get so angry and hurt that I decide to file, then I didn't do everything I could have done. If I give into all of my hurt, angry emotions and lash out at H everytime I interact with him, then I didn't do everything I could have done. I am going to have to live with myself for the rest of my life and my kids are always going to be my kids. I wouldn't want to live with the guilt that I didn't do everything possible to keep my kids' family together.

I know i said this before, but I love this post IK. I'm going to steal this for my plan, ok?

And, yeah, I know the term is "Nothing" H says, but I'm thinking there's some grains of truth or, better word?, honesty in that Spew)

It's not that alien spew isn't partially true or somewhat honest. Heck it might be all true. It might be all false. The point is, what the WAS says is unreliable. You can't tell what they mean and what they don't. Yeah, you're right, you can pick out some parts as their "truth," and some parts as just so absurd they have to know it. But the point is, all in all it's so unreliable that the only rule you can logically apply is "don't believe anything you hear, . . . ."

BTW, I think you can spell out "cr@ppy." That's not even really a cuss word.

Thanks for sharing the L info. Very useful for all of us. You made her sound nice, but she is a L, right???

So hubby won a Silver at his jj tourney, huh? I'm curious, is he a big man? And more importantly, which knee is the fragi . . . I mean, rehabilitated knee? I hope it's the left, because I am right handed and it's harder for me to get my limited edition, autographed Tonya Harding TH6000 lead pipe all the way around to the right knee.

Why don't you tell H that he needs to get a different job and that you are going to tell him what kind of job he needs to get.

I like the fire Kat!

There is a bigger picture here, and - not that it isn't stressful & tight right now - it could not have been solved if I'd gotten a FT legal sec'y job this yr, last yr, or 5 yrs ago.

Bingo. Money may be making him really mad now, but there is some revisionist history going on. (And I guess the whole "kicking" him out, really was off base. I was just noodling out loud, really. He is so so so EMOTIONAL for a WAS (mine just seems dead/detached/automatic), I couldn't understand it. Still can't really.

BTW, paper millionaires can become "real" millionaires after enough time passes and if things break right.