CDM34 It's got to be a sit down, look me in the eye, type of conversation where the man tells his wife how he is feeling. Now, granted, I'm not going to say she isn't going to get angry or defensive at first, but if he goes about it the right way, with the "I feel blah blah blah" stuff not "you don't blah blah blah" maybe when she has time to digest it and it sinks in (and this is the important part) HOW VERY SERIOUS the sitch is, hopefully she will want to make changes.
Sounds like a good plan. I second the motions presented.
I did the "I feel" part. Stayed away from the "you make me" we got to the "angry or defensive" part and that is where things break down. I can state over and over again about how I feel and I hear " well you did............................."
I guess I have to get even thicker skinned.
I believe she will be happier too. When she realizes the intimacy and closeness she's been missing as well, the changes should be lasting because she wants it this "new" way. That is a good hopeful goal CDM34.
If BB would see it that way rather than what she has to do which she has little interest in doing because she just doesn't feel that way.
she wants it this "new" way CDM34 I agree with you, that is the way it should be. I will keep on trying.
You certanially keep trying to convince the guys to keep speaking up, tell it again till the W gets it. ^5.
