Shemagic Lou, You've helped me understand way more from my H's POV about just about everything. More than happy to help in any way I can.
I think from BB's POV she's past the age she really thinks sex is as important and the fact you've been together so long makes her feel secure that no matter how much you tell her YOUR needs she feels validated in her own POV. I can get her to see my POV if I am the heavy, it’s not my style though. I become the parent. If something isn’t right, it is my fault.
J You've never cheated in the past J You mean what we were doing wasn’t cheating???? Maybe I was cheating with Lil or HW, then agfain, I didn’t do anything much different on the forum with them than with you. Oh well, guess I am not much of a cheater after all. Yu’all just kidding about you and me.
so she feels safe that no matter how much you complain you'll never actually follow through either with an A or leave. I agree mostly. Throw in the age thing below, that adds to the LSD.
age doesn't have to be a barrier to enjoying sex…... Know all the health problems don't help
Until you pointed out that men want the emotional connection when they ML I honestly thought it was more just women that needed that. I used to think I was a rare case that wanted the connection until I posted here on the SSM and started to see other guys want the same thing.
Another thing I felt and was surprised other guys felt the same way is when told to find a sex buddy, many guys won’t do it. When I was younger maybe I might have thought, wow a two-fer, some in house pussy and some open range with the W blessing. But I couldn’t have done it.
Thought it was enough for a man just to have the orgasm so they could do that alone. Mind you I can do that alone too LOL and it isn't the same. You were spot on so 100% marks. Shemagic, rent a penis and try being a man sometime. MB is good! Wet slidey, warm humpty hump is so much better. Throw in some wet kisses and a butt rub (you as the male are the giver) and play with your hot woman’s hair and back. Your H gets the rental vagina to experience the female side. Funny enough Shemagic???
Just saying, No way MB could be as good as Pu$$y that wants me in there all comfy and warm.
I might be low bandwidth compared to Mojo, but I can put out some volume.
Don't know if BB will ever see the light and unless you really do drop the "bomb" maybe she never will. Yes I wonder. Will I have to be big ass/dork so much so I won’t like what I did or should I keep doing what I am doing now, gradually set up things to what she wants and to where she won’t need me. I know if I left she will have a difficult time.
Maybe it will be like my brother’s life. When he was alive he was OK in his W’s mind. Twenty years after his death, he almost walked on water. I hear that is typical.
Love and thanks for your wisdom Back at you and to your H shmagic. I like to see couples happier and doing XOXO and all that good stuff.
