Thank you, Mrs.Cac, finally another woman who will *validate* what I have been trying to say. My H felt he had tried to tell me, but in a way or ways that weren't getting through.
It's got to be a sit down, look me in the eye, type of conversation where the man tells his wife how he is feeling. Now, granted, I'm not going to say she isn't going to get angry or defensive at first, but if he goes about it the right way, with the "I feel blah blah blah" stuff not "you don't blah blah blah" maybe when she has time to digest it and it sinks in (and this is the important part) HOW VERY SERIOUS the sitch is, hopefully she will want to make changes. Once she makes those changes, I believe she will be happier too. When she realizes the intimacy and closeness she's been missing as well, the changes should be lasting because she wants it this "new" way.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
