I've talked to my W and Best friend who is also going through a separtion - both she and he initiated the separation - they both told me that they are happy with their decision with no regret? AKA - they are completely fine, no emotional roller coasters, bad days ... zip!
So, it would appeart that the WAS does not experience pain? Can this be? Or is their's a delayed one?
My W acts like everything is perfect?
What the hay is going on!
Baloney! They go through the same crap, they're just not going to show you because then YOU'D know that THEY know that they made a bad decision.
They're waiting around for us to show them we're ready to give them what they want and need but that we don't NEED them for us to be happy. It's quite the dichotomy. If that isn't good enough, they may be too damaged to realize what a good thing they're throwing away. We ALL have to be ready for that possibility, while we hope and pray for the ending we want. And we all have to be ready to work hard. That's about it I think...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
